Fascinating! Notice I didn’t use “absolutely” even though I totally wanted to…darn it! I completely messed up there, didn’t I? Damn it! I’m beyond help!
This is great. Not too shocking considering the hopelessness they feel. Now they are unconsciously projecting that through linguistics. They often have organizing principles of “I’m not worthy” or “I’m not lovable”. Fascinating stuff! ~Dr. K
A quite interesting piece. However i personally would leave it at that! (I did try to say it without ‘I’ ). They analysed forum posts, so obviously there will be loads of I and me, particular considering the nature of forums. Nevertheless fascinating as anything related to human mind ๐
As if I was not already concerned enough about the quality of my English… ๐ Seriously, this is an interesting study but did the researchers take into consideration if English was the mother tongue of the subjects? Obviously, we do not speak the same way in a second language. Thanks for sharing. I enjoy reading this article.
Great article Darren, thanks for sharing! It is so easy to overanalyze, isn’t it? The good news for me is that I don’t have time to worry about how unstable I really am ๐
Ya know, the people who do the analysing, are the wackiest and often most depressed of all.๐
We can all over analyse everything. I certainly (notice the reference to self) don’t give a crap what anybody thinks of me…they can fit me into whatever box they like…but just try to keep me in it! Ha, ha, ha!๐
Its pretty much self evident that I break all those rules, use absolutist words and use personal pronouns constantly. The only subject I know lots about is me… I can have an opinion on others (and do), but that is just subjective stuff. Does that make me depressed, or prone to it? Nope… Events can make a person feel up or down. If we all were neutral, unaffected and calm on everything, we’d probably be described as psychotic. You can’t win when it comes to analysis… Best thing is to be happy within ones self… The rest doesn’t mean much (unless of course it leads to an axe murderer or something terrible). So when therapists are interested in how we express ourselves, according to our state of mind, is just to justify their own existence for treating us. I have seen a few of them self destruct because their own analysis of themselves leaves them totally floundering to interact properly in a social setting!
Interesting piece of insight, but no two people are the same and nor is their thinking.
Eat well, exercise in whatever form is enjoyable, have sex (it is exercise), and turn blind eyes to the negatives and keep on with the positives. It is the same sort of formula (with tweaks) for everyone. It doesn’t need analysing…just needs doing. Enjoy life.
Thank you for this Collette๐. I have my doubts about the research myself. Therapists vary a lot and sometimes it is enough just to have someone neutral to talk to.
Yep, bouncing thoughts off another person can give some objectivity on an issue when that same person is not involved in or subject to any outcome. The ‘what would you do if you were me?’ kind of thing, or just a listening ear helps to clarify and sort our own thoughts.
“Absolutely” fascinating article! “I’m” so glad (attention: here comes a different pronoun๐) you shared this. And now I will either be busy overanalyzing everything I and all the others write or simply forget about it all. ๐
Write ….. or say! Really interesting stuff here! This is great …. but havenโt you occasionally met someone and you know, just know that they suffer from depression? I know that I have! And I couldnโt put my finger on exactly how I knew, but maybe this is it … itโs the use of words. Great post ๐ผโ๏ธ
Exactly. There was a man on Iโm a Celebrity Get Me Out of Here, Ian Lee, and you could just tell that he suffered from some kind of depression, from the way that he responded to certain situations. One minute a bit too over-the-top and almost slightly โin your faceโ and the next, very low, despondent, needing attention etc. It certainly didnโt help that there were some big alpha males there who werenโt very kind … I did feel sorry for him, but also wondered why he was putting himself through something quite so extreme.
I wonder too. Sometimes we just push ourselves in order to prove something but I fear the behaviour of those Alpha males will just damage his probably already poor self esteem. I deliberately avoid men like that anyway.
So can I. But I am not sure it is a bad thing – forcing yourself to smile and be outgoing really does often result in people being friendly back to you and that can be a big help on a bad day.
Ps For the garden side of you, Iโve just spend a couple of hours up here in Glasgow advising a lady about her garden …. it is so unutterably cold here that Iโm not going to venture out any more today in order to thaw out. Instead, I shall be reading and writing blogs …. much nicer and considerably warmer. โ๏ธ
My wife works several days a week in a lovely family run plant nursery in the lakes. I often think it is my dream job until we have a cold wet windy day like yesterday and then I appreciate my cosy office a little more!
Haha – we both have very similar taste in free reading, apparently! I love The Conversation. Their tagline of “Academic rigor. Journalist flair” is just excellent.
I enjoy a great deal of what they publish. Even the articles on popular culture are well thought out. I generally avoid news or current affairs writing except on The Conversation too.
Fascinating! Notice I didn’t use “absolutely” even though I totally wanted to…darn it! I completely messed up there, didn’t I? Damn it! I’m beyond help!
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Great๐. You are doing it too! It is going to drive me quite mad when I write anything from now on! ๐
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That and I really need to cut down on my Wells and Anyhows. We won’t even go into punctuation. I go mad with exclamation points…and ellipses!
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So sorry to have done this to you Linda๐๐ข๐
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I still love you and always send hugs! ๐ค ๐ค
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This is great. Not too shocking considering the hopelessness they feel. Now they are unconsciously projecting that through linguistics. They often have organizing principles of “I’m not worthy” or “I’m not lovable”. Fascinating stuff! ~Dr. K
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Thank you. I found it fascinating too. Like you say, it is not surprising.
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A quite interesting piece. However i personally would leave it at that! (I did try to say it without ‘I’ ). They analysed forum posts, so obviously there will be loads of I and me, particular considering the nature of forums. Nevertheless fascinating as anything related to human mind ๐
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Thank you and agreed. I think one of the commenters on the original piece makes a similar observation and I agree it has an inbuilt bias.๐
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I tend to break all the rules. ๐
I over analyze everything all the time too.
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There is a lot of overanalysing on WordPress ๐
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Put your science brain aside,my friend, and just write…Write what you know and feel. ๐๐๐
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Ha. My therapist used to get so frustrated at my deconstructing everything she did to see how it worked. ๐
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It really makes you wonder isnโt it๐ค
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Thinking is a useful tool but remaining exclusively in (and “as”) thought is sorrow, is depression.
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An interesting article. You could drive yourself quite mad trying to avoid these little triggers. So easy to overanalyze, I do it all the time ๐
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We do have a lot in common Lisa๐
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Very interesting article indeed, now I too will be overanalyzing everything I hear and say as well! ๐
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What have I done to you all?!
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Lol!! My poor kids will be overanalyzed for sure!!!
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As if I was not already concerned enough about the quality of my English… ๐ Seriously, this is an interesting study but did the researchers take into consideration if English was the mother tongue of the subjects? Obviously, we do not speak the same way in a second language. Thanks for sharing. I enjoy reading this article.
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That is a really good point Dominique! ๐โค
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Great article Darren, thanks for sharing! It is so easy to overanalyze, isn’t it? The good news for me is that I don’t have time to worry about how unstable I really am ๐
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I certainly get the impression you fill your time! You seem incredibly active๐
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Interesting! Thanks for sharing!
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Ya know, the people who do the analysing, are the wackiest and often most depressed of all.๐
We can all over analyse everything. I certainly (notice the reference to self) don’t give a crap what anybody thinks of me…they can fit me into whatever box they like…but just try to keep me in it! Ha, ha, ha!๐
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Its pretty much self evident that I break all those rules, use absolutist words and use personal pronouns constantly. The only subject I know lots about is me… I can have an opinion on others (and do), but that is just subjective stuff. Does that make me depressed, or prone to it? Nope… Events can make a person feel up or down. If we all were neutral, unaffected and calm on everything, we’d probably be described as psychotic. You can’t win when it comes to analysis… Best thing is to be happy within ones self… The rest doesn’t mean much (unless of course it leads to an axe murderer or something terrible). So when therapists are interested in how we express ourselves, according to our state of mind, is just to justify their own existence for treating us. I have seen a few of them self destruct because their own analysis of themselves leaves them totally floundering to interact properly in a social setting!
Interesting piece of insight, but no two people are the same and nor is their thinking.
Eat well, exercise in whatever form is enjoyable, have sex (it is exercise), and turn blind eyes to the negatives and keep on with the positives. It is the same sort of formula (with tweaks) for everyone. It doesn’t need analysing…just needs doing. Enjoy life.
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Thank you for this Collette๐. I have my doubts about the research myself. Therapists vary a lot and sometimes it is enough just to have someone neutral to talk to.
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Yep, bouncing thoughts off another person can give some objectivity on an issue when that same person is not involved in or subject to any outcome. The ‘what would you do if you were me?’ kind of thing, or just a listening ear helps to clarify and sort our own thoughts.
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Very interesting article, Darren. Thanks for sharing! ๐โค
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Thank you Ellen ๐
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“Absolutely” fascinating article! “I’m” so glad (attention: here comes a different pronoun๐) you shared this. And now I will either be busy overanalyzing everything I and all the others write or simply forget about it all. ๐
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Suggest forgetting it or you may just go mad๐๐
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What weยดre we talking about just yet? ๐ ๐
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Haven’t a clue ๐
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Hehe!
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Write ….. or say! Really interesting stuff here! This is great …. but havenโt you occasionally met someone and you know, just know that they suffer from depression? I know that I have! And I couldnโt put my finger on exactly how I knew, but maybe this is it … itโs the use of words. Great post ๐ผโ๏ธ
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Usually I can tell, yes.
Even when people hide depression by being boisterous I can usually tell they are simply trying too hard.
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Exactly. There was a man on Iโm a Celebrity Get Me Out of Here, Ian Lee, and you could just tell that he suffered from some kind of depression, from the way that he responded to certain situations. One minute a bit too over-the-top and almost slightly โin your faceโ and the next, very low, despondent, needing attention etc. It certainly didnโt help that there were some big alpha males there who werenโt very kind … I did feel sorry for him, but also wondered why he was putting himself through something quite so extreme.
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I wonder too. Sometimes we just push ourselves in order to prove something but I fear the behaviour of those Alpha males will just damage his probably already poor self esteem. I deliberately avoid men like that anyway.
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Poor fellow, I did feel for him.
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If Iโm being honest, I can also see some of those traits in me ….. grrrr
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So can I. But I am not sure it is a bad thing – forcing yourself to smile and be outgoing really does often result in people being friendly back to you and that can be a big help on a bad day.
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Youโre absolutely right and so positive! Iโm so glad Iโve met you ๐๐.
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Mutual ๐๐
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Ps For the garden side of you, Iโve just spend a couple of hours up here in Glasgow advising a lady about her garden …. it is so unutterably cold here that Iโm not going to venture out any more today in order to thaw out. Instead, I shall be reading and writing blogs …. much nicer and considerably warmer. โ๏ธ
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Poor you! I hate being cold.
My wife works several days a week in a lovely family run plant nursery in the lakes. I often think it is my dream job until we have a cold wet windy day like yesterday and then I appreciate my cosy office a little more!
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Haha – we both have very similar taste in free reading, apparently! I love The Conversation. Their tagline of “Academic rigor. Journalist flair” is just excellent.
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I enjoy a great deal of what they publish. Even the articles on popular culture are well thought out. I generally avoid news or current affairs writing except on The Conversation too.
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